In our quest to create a better world, women hold a unique and transformative power. However, significant barriers prevent women, especially those in the sex and relationships wellness field, from fully realizing their potential.
Let me be clear here - back when I started my business I was money and business averse. I had this ''I just want to help people'' mentality and no understanding of what this actually means for me as a person who also has bills to pay, aside of and despite of the big dreams I had.
I didn't know the true cost of it all - of starting my practice, of running it, of paying the tax, setting money aside for holidays, for pension, for sickness. So, in the next few weeks, the SBC will actually publish a series of articles on all these important topics - keep visiting our site and get the vital insights and advice.
Moreover, I had a terrible relationship with money and I had to work hard to heal this and I am so much better off for it and able to make a difference in my industry on a level way bigger than my private practice can ever achieve.
I run the Sexperts Business Community so I can support my colleagues and I also built lifesexplicit.com where we market and promote sexperts to the general public - fighting censorship in a tangible and solid way that brings professionals in front of those who need them.
NONE of this would have been possible if I had kept my business and money negative mindset.
Why?
Because I'd be poor and burnt-out and barely able to cover my expenses not to mention to have resources, time and energy to uplift my colleagues and industry.
So, here's to a future where we put the effort to heal, in order to save the world.
The Barriers
A I said - among the barriers are deeply ingrained attitudes toward money and business. Women's aversion to money, fueled by internalized misogyny, stands in the way of building a better world. Hence, this article explores why women will never change the world unless we fix our attitudes towards money and business. It delves into women's aversion to money, the impact of internalized misogyny, and the immense power women possess in driving global change.
Finally, this article + the ebook I wrote about the state of affairs in the industry offer practical advice for sexperts—therapists, coaches, and educators—on transforming their relationship with money to become financial superpowers, ultimately influencing and improving the world.
The Challenge: Women's Aversion to Money
Understanding the Aversion
any women, particularly in the sex and relationships wellness field, have a complicated relationship with money. This aversion often stems from societal conditioning that equates wealth with greed and corruption.
Women are frequently taught that desiring money is unfeminine or that their primary role is to nurture rather than accumulate wealth. These beliefs are so deeply ingrained that they often go unchallenged, leading to a pervasive discomfort with financial matters. This keeps women poor, financially illiterate and often depending on men for financial security.
Furthermore, it means women willfully take on more and more unpaid labour or undervalue their work - because the narrative is that having money is bad and you should not charge much for helping people.
This in itself has massive negative implications for every woman out there, in her personal and professional life.
The Impact of Internalized Misogyny
Internalized misogyny plays a significant role in perpetuating women's aversion to money. From a young age, girls are often socialized to believe that their worth is tied to their appearance or their ability to care for others, rather than their financial acumen or professional achievements. This societal conditioning creates a barrier to financial empowerment, as women may feel undeserving or incapable of achieving financial success.
Furthermore, patriarchy's weaponised altruism says you as a woman should not be charging money or getting rich off of helping people. This creates another barrier to professionals in the field actually earning well and being able to make greater impact into the world.
Not to forget to mention - they themselves often engage in financial self-abandonment for the benefit of others by offering their services to people for cheap and thus being in a perpetual state of financial distress as they struggle to pay for their expensive education and training, supervision, costs of running a business etc.
Their mental health often takes a toll as well as their physical health, as we know stress lives in the body and being in perpetual financial distress and even poverty costs us in other ways as well.
The Power of Women in Changing the World
Unleashing Potential
Despite these challenges, women possess an incredible capacity to drive change. When women are empowered financially, they invest in their families, communities, and broader society.
Studies show that women reinvest up to 90% of their income back into their families and communities, compared to 35% for men. This reinvestment has a profound ripple effect, improving education, healthcare, and overall quality of life.
This is why women especially need to charge fairly for their work and be able to create a bigger impact into the world.
Women in Leadership
Furthermore if you are a sexpert - a woman - in private practice, you should see yourself as a woman in a leadership position who can bring unique perspectives and skills to the table.
Women leaders are often more collaborative, empathetic, and focused on long-term outcomes. These qualities are crucial in addressing complex global challenges such as social inequality, sex and education issues, women's rights etc..
By embracing their financial power, women can amplify their impact and drive meaningful change on a global scale.
If you want to foster the power of community - the Sexperts Business Community is the right place for you to UNITE and work with colleagues to change the world.
Overcoming Internalized Misogyny
The first step in overcoming internalized misogyny is recognizing and challenging these harmful beliefs. Women must confront the societal narratives that diminish their value and capabilities. This involves questioning long-held assumptions and embracing a mindset that views financial success as a tool for empowerment and positive change.
Education is a powerful tool in combating internalized misogyny. By educating themselves about financial literacy, women can gain confidence in managing their finances and making informed decisions.
Empowerment programs and resources that focus on financial education can help women build the skills and knowledge needed to navigate the financial landscape effectively.
Practical Steps for Women in the Sex and Relationships Field
Understanding the Dynamics
Women in the sex and relationships wellness field need to work on understanding the dynamics that hold them back. Referencing Leah Spasova’s work, especially the piece "A Wake-Up Call for Professionals in the Sexuality Wellness Field," can be instrumental. This piece offers insights into the attitudes and belief systems that hinder financial success.
Additionally, we recommend reading "Worthy" by Nancy Levin, which helps with the emotional journey necessary to heal negative relationships with money.
Focusing on Financial Education & Attitude
Financial education is crucial. We recommend learning from the YouTube finance channel of Sorrelle Amore and the work of Tori Dunlap from HerFirst100k. These resources provide practical advice and strategies for managing finances. Additionally, the book "The Richest Man in Babylon" offers timeless lessons on financial wisdom and building wealth.
Start with Sorelle with these videos:
We highly recommend this video as well
Start with Tori with this podcast episode: episode: 154 WHY DO WE HATE WHEN WOMEN HAVE MONEY?
Shownotes and transcript + more: https://herfirst100k.com/financial-feminist-show-notes/154-why-do-we-hate-when-women-have-money/
Building Emergency Funds and Charging What You're Worth
Sexperts should prioritize building emergency funds to ensure financial stability. It’s also essential to charge what you're worth and focus on value-based pricing. This means setting prices that reflect the value and impact of your services, rather than undercutting yourself out of fear or societal pressure.
Investing in and Supporting Each Other
Women should learn to invest in and support businesses they believe in. If we don't invest in each other's businesses, our field will struggle for another 200 years at best.
Sexperts should do more to support ventures in the sexuality industry in every possible way they can—by promoting them, connecting the founders with others, helping them network, and by buying from them.
What's at Stake
If women, particularly those in the sex and relationships wellness field, do not address their attitudes toward money and business, the consequences could be dire. The ongoing war on sex and relationships education, women's rights, and the erosion of democracy in the West threaten to obliterate any chance of creating a better world
Without financial empowerment, women will continue to be marginalized, and their potential to drive positive change will remain unrealized.
What to do to start?
The time for change is now. Women must embrace their financial power and take active steps to transform their relationship with money. By joining the Sexperts Business Community, women can access valuable resources, connect with like-minded individuals, and participate in events that promote financial empowerment.
Together, we can create a future where women are not only financially empowered but are also leading the charge in building a better world.
Join the Sexperts Business Community today and be part of a movement that empowers women - the predominant force in the field of sex and relationships to make money and save the world from the erosion of democratic values and personal freedoms.
Together, we can turn our vision of a better world into a reality.
Don't Forget:
Please get this FREE ebook and read about this topic in a lot more depth, to understand what is really happening and how women's power is oppressed through the weaponisation of altruism and demonisation of money especially in the hands of women.
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